Some Things are Beyond My Control

The above title is a cliche. I know it and I’m sorry, but the statement is true. Too often the phrase is used as an excuse to explain why we’re unable to fulfil a commitment. In my case, this week it came to mind because of an advertisement that insists on popping up in this space, not once but in several spots, and it reappears in multiples almost every day. I finally complained to WordPress when one visitor told me it “grossed her out;” it looked like worms protruding from an ear or a rectum! Yuck!

The WP gurus explained the ads are generated automatically and said, “We do block a lot of ad types in categories like violence, sex, and drugs, among others, but some do slip through the cracks and sometimes it’s quite beyond our control.” This particular ad doesn’t fit into any of those categories, so I doubt they’ll do anything about it. Therefore, its appearance here is beyond my control as well.

Then again, that’s only partly true, because I have the option of switching to a paid version of WP without ads instead of using this free one. If and when the day comes that my writing becomes a commercial endeavour, I will do that. Then a professional website will be desirable. But for now my blogging is only a writing-related hobby so I’m resigned to the ads. If only they weren’t so tasteless!

Thinking about control reminds me that there are many things in our lives that we can’t control. For instance, there isn’t much we can do about certain kinds of violence or accidents caused by other people, even when we may be severely affected by them. We do our part — use common sense, avoid potentially dangerous situations, drive defensively — but despite that, sometimes “bad things happen to good people.” (Another cliche.)

We don’t have much control when it comes to some aspects of our writing, either. We control what we put onto the page, but we have no say in how those words will be received by those who read them. If we send off manuscripts to agents or publisher, we have no power to elicit positive responses from them (or to elicit any response at all).

“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it,” said Charles R. Swindoll.*

And that’s the answer. Attitude is everything…and the only thing we can control. In any difficult situation we do what we can, then get on with living, whether it be with resignation or hopefulness. If you are a person of faith as I am, you add prayer to the mix. In any case, we have to move on.

When it comes to disgusting ads, I will continue to report them, hoping to make a difference. In accident, illness or limitations, I would hope to continue with activities within my level of ability. In the submission process, I’ll continue to write new words as I wait. After all, no matter what it brings, stepping into tomorrow is a wondrous adventure.

It’s all about attitude.

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*Christian pastor, author, educator, and founder of Insight for Living

2 thoughts on “Some Things are Beyond My Control

  1. Laura Best says:

    I agree with you, Carol, attitude is everything and prayer plays an important part as well. I have noticed how attitude plays a big role in our lives and those around us.

    Perhaps my slow connection prevents me from seeing any ads. I’ve never seen any. I guess that could be considered a bonus. 😉 I am hopeful that one day high speed will be available to everyone in rural Nova Scotia. They’ve been making some progress in that area so I remain hopeful.

    • Carol says:

      It’s not often a slow internet connection would be considered a bonus. LOL. Those of us who live relatively close to large centres take our high speed for granted, but it isn’t everywhere out here. Our cabin in BC’s Cariboo area has no cell or internet service at all. Of course, we don’t have electricity or running water there either, so I guess that’s not surprising.

      As for the ads, I’ve heard through WordPress that when we are logged into our blogs we won’t see the ads. Your blog is also on WordPress so perhaps you’re logged in when you visit me here, and that might be why you don’t see the ads. IDK.

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